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Panaga Outpost Pages Issue 3: May-June 2020
Seria, Brunei Darussalam
Travel
here that you don’t ever actually have to go on these
trips, so push the boat out. Look at the amazing hotels,
crazy sunsets and enormous meals and then, when you
surface from your laptop, you can relish the fact that
you haven’t gained 35 lbs from eating American pan-
cakes, haven’t spent a month’s salary on a hotel made
entirely of bamboo and smiles, and you will probably
never have to walk up a hill unless you’re forced to.
Of course, if you’re so inclined you can book all these
things and have actual dates in your diary where you
will get off the sofa and leave the house. Well done,
you.
Do things together as a family (separately)
I’m always impressed when I see families playing
board games together, cooking together and being
jolly together, especially in a slow motion montage.
Obviously I only ever see these families on TV. Real life
(in our house) is somewhat different. Something that
worked for us when we were stuck in our apartment for
days on end was to do what we as individuals want to
do, but in the same location (volume and mess permit-
ting), so we have the physical closeness that people
do need but without having to actually communicate.
Open plan living really lends itself well to this. So, let
the kids paint while you read a book and your spouse
idly watches TV. Just because you’re together doesn’t
mean you have to do the same things. But if you do,
please put it on Facebook so the rest of us can feel
inadequate as we try and justify excessive time on
iPads as “research” (see above) or hours spent doing
Minecraft as “geography” or internet shopping as
“economic stimulation”. In the meantime I shall get back
to watching Mad Men and pretend it’s an intellectual
exercise examining the rise of modern culture and femi-
nism while really I just like watching Jon Hamm in a suit.
Stick to a routine (or not)
Some families stuck inside over the winter would be
almost gleeful at the start of their winter hibernation. A
new timetable would surface, with ice skating and cross
country skiing and extra music lessons and and and -
oh gosh, I’m exhausted at the memory of them. While it
is important to get up and not laze around, being stuck
at home for any length of time requires a little more
flexibility and, much as I hate to use the word, chill. You
can’t spend every day in your pyjamas watching TV,
but every now and then doesn’t hurt anyone. When
the daily routine has already taken a change, mixing
things up does everyone good. Have cereal for dinner,
have a picnic in a bedroom, spend the day watching
an entire series of movies from start to finish. And then,
the next day, get up, get dressed and follow the usual
routine. It will feel a little easier.
This too will pass
The thing about winters in Moscow is that spring would
come eventually. There would always be a few extra
snowfalls and drops in temperature just to taunt you
when you thought the worst was over, but one day
you’d realise that the coat you were wearing felt odd.
And the odd feeling is that you were warm again,
despite being outdoors, and you’d made it through
another winter.
There are no fix-all tips or tricks that work for everyone
when forced to stay at home for any extended length of
time. Have patience. Be gentle with yourself and others.
Move your body. Do things that you enjoy, and some-
times do things that you don’t much enjoy but that make
others happy (see Minecraft, above). Eat the biscuits,
watch the TV and stay in touch with the people you like
the best. You don’t need to make use of the time if you
don’t want to; there isn’t a timesheet at the end to fill
out to say what you’ve been doing. Getting through is
absolutely enough.
And as for the shopping? Well, ASOS and M&S deliver
to Brunei in four days, so as long as they can get
through so will I. With Jon Hamm for company.